Friday, February 2, 2018

So long, old girl

Never has there been a more endearing and annoying dog, we always said. She loved to get into the garbage and if I left butter out to soften she would eat it EVERY TIME. Once we came home from church to find she'd gotten into the closet and chewed up one shoe out of every pair I owned. I was stuck wearing my church shoes for weeks.

We also said she was the dog with nine lives. Connie inexplicably broke her leg when she was a puppy and we thought we'd have to put her down since we didn't have the thousands of dollars needed for surgery. The vet hesitatingly put a cast on it, and it worked, but she limped the rest of her long life. And once she ate glue, and once she lost a ton of weight and we thought it was the end. She always bounced back, but it turned out she was on her last life this year.

Yes, she was exceedingly annoying, but boy was she there to see us through a lot of stuff. We got her when we'd been married less than a year. I first held her at my friend Rose's wedding (they were her father-in-law's puppies) and we later brought her home to my parents' because she was supposed to be my dad's hunting dog. We bought our first house a couple of months later and she came to live with us. We nicknamed her "Cowdog." She was allowed on the furniture! Over the years, she was there when we went to live at camp for the summer, brought home five babies, moved, changed jobs, and mourned our various losses.

So in honor of Connie's nine lives, here are nine fond memories.

1. This was one of the first weekends after we brought her home. We went up to camp at Tahquamenon Falls for the weekend and it was there I learned how crazy people are about dogs. I never got that much attention dogless, that's for sure.


2. For a short time she rode in a kennel in the car, but she got carsick, so after about two minutes she had free reign. Which she held for the rest of her life.



3. Connie with her cast. I remember when Kevin called me to tell me what had happened. I was at school. I had to leave the classroom crying, and my teacher-friend Jessica came and hugged me while I wondered aloud why I'd cry over a dog I hated so much.


4. She used to sleep on the couch or in our bed. By the time the kids came she was banished to a kennel in the basement! Sorry dog, that's how it goes.


5. Nellie's first afternoon at home. My favorite (picture, not child. I love you all the same!)


6. The time the girls painted the dogs.


7. Connie loved paddle boarding in her older age.


8. A dog on the boat!? I'd forgotten about this. During one of her bad spells we thought sure she was dying. We brought her to Pam's "one last time," which is why I felt sorry for her and let her ride on my lap. What an actress she was. She lived over two more years.


9. Actually one of her last times at the lake. Just right.

Thursday, February 1, 2018

This one time, in grad school...

I got coffee with Kevin today and remembered something "funny" from my past life. It was a particularly intense time, between starting dissertation research and figuring out life with three kids. One day I met a fellow student/friend at the same coffee shop, where we worked for hours analyzing data for a manuscript. When it was time to pick up Nellie from school, my keys were nowhere to be found. My friend searched around our table and I went out to look in the van. Where I found the keys. In the ignition. With the van running. I'd been there for over three hours.

At the time, I was embarrassed and worried there might actually be something wrong with me. I'm pretty sure I went back in and just told my friend I'd found the keys and left.

Now, I'm glad it happened, because every time I go somewhere and I DON'T do that, I feel like I'm doing pretty great at life!

Friday, January 5, 2018

Super Mario Bros.

Thanks to Colin H., DJ got Super Mario Bros. for the Wii (which is newly re-hooked up in the  basement play area). He was downstairs for roughly 2.5 minutes before coming up to find me to help him. No way. In my world, kids do not need their parents to help them with video games. I tried the ignorance card (sorry, it's not very feminist-y of me.)

Me: No, DJ. Kids play video games. Mom's don't know how to.

I tried the important jobs card.

Me: No, DJ. Moms have lots of jobs to do. I can't help with video games.

It didn't work. I went down and modeled for him how to start the first level. And promptly died.

DJ: Mom, you killed me!

Me: I told you, I am not any better at this than you are! Let me try again.

[After my 10th round] DJ: Okay mom. Okay mom. OKAY MOM.

Me: Hold on, I think there are coins down here. If you get a hundred coins you get a new guy.

New guy?! What are these words even coming out of my mouth? 

It's like something deep in my soul is stirring within me...

My current status

Monday, January 1, 2018

2017 Word of the Year

Christmas break gave me some time to reflect back on the year, particularly the long days I spent with the kids during school breaks and Kevin's hunting trips away. There were many points, especially last summer, when I felt a little crazy being pulled in so many directions when I was home. After being back at school for a few months, that feeling crept back in a little over the holiday break. But I also see how the kids (and I) have grown and changed in such a short time.

So the word of the year for us in 2017 is together. It's taken me this long to realize what a unique (and short) period of our lives we're in. With the oldest ten and the youngest just turned one, it's one of the very few years with Mary Cate before Nellie is off to do her own thing--or at least old enough to stay home alone. In fact, by the end of the summer I was running to Meijer and leaving Nellie home with Annie and DJ. The time when Nellie and Annie can babysit is in sight.


But this year, we did almost everything together. Sports practices and games? Together. Grocery shopping? Together. Library? Together. Playing at the park? Together. Go to the bank, the hardware store, or stop at school? Together. What made this last summer particularly challenging was keeping two yards tidy and two houses clean and maintained while the Holly Way house was on the market. So we made the 20-minute drive a few times a week to water and trim plants, pull weeds, and sweep floors--together.

I truly loved every minute I spent with the kids this year just being together. Though the days can be long and full, this is time that I know will pass swiftly. Someday remarkably soon, our days together will be fewer and farther between. And that's okay, but for now, I will try my best to appreciate it.
Being together. Coincidentally, not pictured is Eddie, who is the actual owner of this water table.

Sunday, December 31, 2017

Christmas 2017

First things first, the sickness report: No throwing up or fevers, mild congestion and sore throats for all. I'll take it.

As usual, life took on a near-frenetic atmosphere from Thanksgiving through roughly yesterday, the 30th. We started with home improvement, puppies, Christmas shopping, and Christmas concerts early and ended buried in wrapping paper and cookie crumbs.

Post-Christmas production kids. Nellie had a lead role and the other kids danced and sang!

Me + Puppy

Annie in the Christmas concert

DJ in the Christmas concert. 
We started vacation with a house party for Annie's classmate to watch the Polar Express. Big hit with Eddie, especially. Then I took the kids for our annual Christmas mall trip to visit Santa and do all the fun mall things, and we went to my mom's for cookie-making.


My favorite part of the mall activities--the kids put on an improv act at the Barnes and Noble stage. It started with a monologue from Nellie: "This is our play, we make it up as we go. What's it about? We don't really know!"

Cookie-baking!
DJ was showing off his first missing tooth.
 Eddie's watching carefully for the moment the cookies are ready.
Most of the rest of vacation up to Christmas involved Kevin and I working on The Biggest Christmas Present Ever. We pretty much put the kids to bed every night and threatened to cancel Christmas if they got out of bed, then worked like crazy in the basement until midnight.
Door signs
FINALLY, the big day arrived. Pam came two days early because of an impending two inches of snow, which turned into more like six inches before it was over. So it was a very beautiful white Christmas!

Church Christmas Eve


Calm before the fun-storm

Waiting in our bed for the littles to wake up and for us to make the coffee
Mary Cate really had no interest in anything but the little Ritz crackers

The big surprise was as happy as we could have hoped. We turned our basement into a gym with a mat, bar, balance beam, Thomas roller coaster, and more.






Over two days, we hosted 21 of our favorite people for food (waffles, Chinese food), fun (lots of basement play, crazy outfits), and presents (so many presents!). And then, the party continued as we celebrated two of our favorite guys!
Six!
The Christmas season can feel a bit like survival mode at our house, but we always find peace in the fact that the kids love it. They don't know any different and to them, Christmas means family party after party and noise and activity and music and all the rest. The togetherness is my favorite part, both "just" the seven of us and being with our extended families. Another holiday is in the books, with all the memories to show for it! Cheers to another year.

I like to do things!

Nellie, after watching me slide down a hill on the snow scooter: "Mom, I wish I knew you when you were a kid. I'll bet you were fun then."

"What do you mean, I was fun then? Am I not fun?"

"Well you probably liked to do a lot more stuff then. You don't want to do things now."

"Yes I do! I want to feed you lunch and dinner and keep the little kids alive."

Silence.

Donald, age 6


(He wants to go by Donald now. That's his "school name.")

How do you feel about being six?  
Good!

What kinds of new things do six-year-olds do?   
Lose more teeth.

What are you most excited about for the next year?
It's going to be Christmas again, and my birthday again, and I'll get lots of presents.

Who are your best friends?
Carson, Caleb, Ira, Brendan, Wesley. That's all.

Who are your favorite people to play with?
Carson, Eddie and Mary, Otto.

What kinds of things are you good at?
Games like Wii boxing, Sorry, and Candy Land. And that's all.

What do you want to be when you grow up?
A policeman and a scientist.

Why do you want to be a policeman and scientist?
Because they're cool jobs.

What’s your favorite song?   
Silent Night.

What's your favorite food?
Mac and cheese.

Favorite movie? 
Back to the Future 2!

Favorite book?   
Aliens Love Underpants.

Favorite color?   
Green! And red.

Favorite place to be?
McDonald's! That's really my favorite place to be. The one that we live the closest to.

What are your favorite things to do?   
Play at school, play in our basement, that's all.

What is your favorite present that you received?
My lava lamp. [What about for your birthday?] My Mario towel.

Is there anything else you want us to know about you?   
No!